Wednesday, July 31, 2013

Where my girls at?

Sanibonani, bangani!

One of the many things they tell you in PC is that service is more about the relationships you build than the bricks-and-mortar projects you do. At first I laughed at the Intentional Relationship Building concept (remember?). I've since found that nothing could be better than the relationships that have grown between members of my community and me.

The women in the support group I work with are by far my favorites. My best counterpart there never fails to make me laugh. She has a tiny dog named Spider and a larger puppy named Scorpion (Bulembu and Fecela, respectively, in siSwati). When Spider arrived at her place, he was near death. She nursed him with crushed cotrimoxazole -- an antibiotic given to all people with HIV -- mixed with water and milk. The puppy seems pretty strong now.

"This one is sick, you must not beat him," she explained. "He must take his ARVs."

I taught the support group accounting using a book I found at the PC office in the capital. I invented a five-session course and gave them a test. It went pretty well. The women often operated on Swazi time, arriving at least half an hour late. I'm at the point where that doesn't bother me unless I have somewhere else to be. This is one thing I've learned: I try to avoid planning more than one activity per day. You just don't know how long things will take.

After class, if I had time, I'd often stay and shoot the breeze with the ladies. They'd ask me about America, and we'd talk about the differences between our countries.

"Here, the man is treated like a king," they told me. They also said I would get into trouble with the local tribal leaders if they found out that sometimes Jack cooks. Traditional Swazi culture is strict in terms of gender norms. A woman is punished if she doesn't do the work that is expected of her.

One amazing conversation we had involved two of the support group women explaining how they think Americans talk.

"Americans don't say 'hello,' they say 'helloooooooo,'" ND told me, saying it in a high-pitched singsong. I couldn't stop laughing. I told her I want to take video of her so I can show you guys. It's difficult to put into words how glorious it was.

The women also told me they couldn't understand me on the phone when I first arrived, but now I speak Swazi English. PC volunteers always joke about our "Swazi voice." We all have to slow down our speech and enunciate, otherwise our Swazi friends have a tough time understanding what we're saying. Some volunteers end up with a weird British accent happening. We mock those volunteers.

The bottom line is that I'd like to issue a formal apology to the concept of intentional relationship building. I never should have made light of you, sir or madam. You're going to make or break this whole experience.

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The Next Big Thing will be the arrival of Mama and Papa T on Aug. 20. We're going to hit up Kruger National Park again, as well as St. Lucia for some whale watching and beach time. I'm pretty psyched. If you see them, give them a high-five and tell them they'll have an ah-mazing time.

Now I'm in town going through my mid-service medical checkup. This is also known as poop in a cup time. Here's hoping everything comes out OK (see what I did there?).

Keep fighting the good fight, team!

Salani kahle!

Thursday, July 11, 2013

The swing of things

 Sanibonani! Here are two posts in one. The first I wrote yesterday; the second I wrote today. The division should be clear.

Things are settling back into normalcy for me at site after the whirlwind Weinstein visit and some time in the big city for our PC Swaziland newsletter. While a fellow volunteer/newsletter editor and I worked on this edition, we spent some time discussing challenges at our sites. Both of us have experienced delays with our girls empowerment clubs because of school scheduling (this has been a busy term for sports). Likewise, we both have had challenges teaching life skills at our schools. For me, this was the same scheduling issue. I also hit a snag in working with the women's support group on their chicken project. It felt for both of us as if we were at a lull in our service. Not much seemed to be working the way we expected.

This, bangani (friends), is Peace Corps. We're about a year into our time here, and we've spent that year trying to get various projects off the ground. For myriad reasons, this is not the easiest thing in the world to do. We both expressed frustration and discussed the disappointment that came with these setbacks.

And then something strange happened.

While I was in the city, I received a call from a teacher asking if I was coming for life skills and the girls club that day. I told her no, but I said I'd be there the next week. I called the support group leader, and we arranged a time to meet to discuss how to move ahead with their income-generating chicken project. I attended a results dissemination meeting for a study on the integration of HIV and family-planning services. I discussed the possibility of a meeting with an NGO (nongovernment organization) to work on a mural with the children's support group at my clinic. Suddenly, my dance card was filling up. And you know what? It felt AWESOME.

This was possible because I, like all volunteers, have spent the past year building relationships and working through trial and error. We all experience disappointment and frustration during our service. In this case, it's not because the community doesn't want to work with me -- the people in my village have been great. Sometimes things just happen differently or happen more slowly than I expect. And, it's important for me to remind myself, life here doesn't revolve around me. This community was here long before I got here, and it will remain after I leave. All I can do is try to figure out where I fit into it and do my best to lend a hand.

That said, the year mark is where many volunteers experience a low point. I hope that was mine.

Swazi word of the day: umndeni = family. Umndeni wami = my family.

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I just finished two books that, coincidentally, dovetailed quite nicely and could have an interesting impact on my service. The first was “The Invisible Cure” by Helen Epstein, and the second was “The Tipping Point” by Malcolm Gladwell. On the second, at least, I’m very late to the party. (This isn’t unusual. I am not what is known as an Early Adopter of trends. See also: Dave Matthews Band, Harry Potter, leggings, “Arrested Development.”)

Epstein’s book discusses how HIV and AIDS have progressed in different African countries. She focuses on Uganda, which has seen the most dramatic decrease in HIV infection rates since the emergence of the virus. Epstein attributes this largely to the “Zero Grazing” campaign. This encouraged Ugandans to decrease their number of sexual partners. Her research suggests that this decrease in partner numbers probably had more of an effect on Uganda’s HIV situation than the use of condoms or encouragement of abstinence.

It is widely acknowledged now that concurrent sexual partnerships are a big contributor to the spread of HIV. Swazis, for example, are much more likely than Americans to have more than one sexual partner at a time. They are not likely to have MORE lifetime partners than an American, but while Americans tend to have serial monogamous relationships, Swazis are likelier to have long-term relationships with more than one partner simultaneously. This is a huge concern when it comes to HIV.

People who contract HIV have large amounts of the virus in their blood – and are much more likely to transmit it – very soon after infection. This often is a period when people are unaware of their HIV status. This means that if you have two partners at the same time and one passes HIV to you, you are much likelier to transmit the virus to your other partner long before you show symptoms. If your second partner has multiple partners as well, she or he could spread it to them without knowing it, and so on and so on until you have a huge ripple effect in a complex network of partnerships. In a situation of serial monogamy, you’re likelier to be with just one partner when you’re infected and then to stay with that partner through that early period of acute infectiousness. By the time you change partners, you’re probably less infectious (or maybe you know your status). This makes for a much slower spread of disease. That was where Zero Grazing came in. The campaign encouraged people to decrease the size of their sexual networks, and this had a huge impact on HIV in Uganda.

Epstein also looks at southern Africa (with a tiny foray into Swaziland). She sees a difference in how HIV and AIDS are discussed. In Uganda, people recognize that family members, friends and neighbors have HIV. In South Africa, in particular, it appears to Epstein that people are much less likely to put a personal face on HIV. Few acknowledge their status openly, and there is less discussion of the realities of living with HIV. Even if people know the facts about HIV, Epstein suggests, they are far less likely to change their behavior if they don’t have a personal story about it. I can’t speak for anyone else, but I have seen this in my community. I have asked people whether there are nationally known spokespeople who are HIV-positive and willing to discuss it. I’ve been told that there were some at the outset of the epidemic, but they seem to be less visible now. Stigma is still an enormous problem. People don’t talk openly about what people die from. Thus HIV remains more of an abstract idea.

I can’t say for sure what impact this reluctance to talk has in Swaziland, but I do think it’s doing some harm. Factors such as gender relations, limited economic opportunities and a false sense of security because of treatment options might also come into play.

From here, we go to Gladwell. “The Tipping Point” is a study of how trends spread in society. These can be trends such as teen smoking or suicide, or they can be trends like a popular pair of shoes. Gladwell argues that word of mouth is perpetuated by a few people, those he calls Connectors, Mavens and Salesmen. If you haven’t read the book, I recommend checking it out. Basically, Gladwell suggests that getting ideas or goods into the hands of the right people is what drives change.

I pondered this in conjunction with Epstein’s book and started to wonder: What is the tipping point for HIV in Swaziland? What can be done to get the idea of prevention, testing and treatment into the hands of the right people? Gladwell mentions hairdressers as useful outlets for spreading breast cancer information in the U.S. Some programs in the developing world have successfully used hair salons to promote female condoms. Could the hairdressers in my community be advocates for condom use or shrinking of partner networks? It’s hard to say, and it’s a bigger question than I can answer. But the two books together opened my mind as far as what I could be doing here. In the coming weeks, I’m going to visit some of the hair salons in my community. Maybe I’ll start by asking if I can put boxes of free condoms – female and male – into the salons. Perhaps I’ll broach the subject of condom demonstrations. And I’ll definitely start asking the women I know where they get their information about sexual health. I might be overlooking some key difference makers in my village.

Will I find any new answers? Will anything really change? I have no idea. It’s an interesting prospect, at any rate. I’ll let you know how it goes.

Salani kahle.

Tuesday, July 2, 2013

Vacation fun!

Sanibonani, all!

Jack and I just finished a lovely vacation with his family.

Our first stop was Cape Town, where we visited Robben Island. It's a bumpy boat ride out to where the South African government held Nelson Mandela (and many others who fought to end Apartheid) for the bulk of his 27-year prison term.

We lucked out with fabulous weather the first two days. It was too windy for shark diving, unfortunately, but we were able to take the cable car up Table Mountain. The first two photos below are views from that. It's stunning. We also saw the penguins at Boulder Beach and took a beautiful drive down the Cape. It was fabulous.

Our third day brought rain and chill, but we spent it on a winery tour with an excellent guide. That was the perfect icky-day activity (though we missed out on some of the beauty of the area).

From Cape Town, we flew back to Johannesburg and drove to Swaziland. We found time to zipline at Malolotja, where Jack and I camped a few months back. We spent only a night in the Kingdom, however, and were on the road early the next day to head for Kruger National Park. The game reserve is bigger than Swaziland (which, if you recall, is about the size of New Jersey). We stayed at a lovely place called Imbali Safari Lodge. The rooms were beautiful, and hte staff was great. The price included all meals as well as high tea and drinks and snacks on game drives. An early morning and evening game drive were included each day as well.

We saw giraffes, lions (male and female), cheetahs, an ostrich, rhinos, elephants, and all kinds of antelope-type things. Cheetahs are extremely rare; there are only 200  in the whole park. Male lions also are rare. We got very lucky and had a fantastic time.

The end of the trip included more Swaziland time. The Weinsteins met my family. My host dad remembered their name by repeating "wein plus stein" several times. He was welcoming, and he even did a fashion show in different types of traditional Swazi attire. He's quite the showman, lemme tell ya. It was great. The visit also gave the Weinsteins a chance to practice their siSwati. They also got to try chicken dust. The reviews were excellent. We hit up plenty of craft markets, as well as Swazi Candle and Ngwenya Glass.

At Jack's sister Kendra's request, here's the siSwati phrase of the day: "Umuhle namuhla," meaning "You are beautiful today." 

The new Group 11 volunteers are here! I haven't met them yet, but I will have a chance to do so at the Fourth of July party this week. You know what that means: PCVs toting tupperware will descend on the country director's house to eat ALL THE HOT DOGS AND HAMBURGERS. It will be glorious. Yea, America! Happy birthday to you.

The next move will be planning the Mama and Papa T trip, now officially slated for late August. I'm excited to show them the SWZ!

Enjoy these photos (I took none of them), and salani kahle.